Show, Don’t Tell

“Show, don’t tell” is advice for writers that I’ve read in several books about memoir writing. It has to do with creating a scene, not simply describing the scene, Letting the reader experience it.

I’m better at telling. At simply describing, not giving the reader the freedom to use her imagination.

For example. Telling: The floor sloped down each side. The hallway was dark and it was a fun place to play “Hide and Seek.” Showing: I ran through the slanted hallway. Pinpricks of light came through the closed windows. I could barely see my feet as I hid from my sister.

I’m much better at description of detail than painting a scene. I think this is the logical part of my brain, maybe the editor brain, not the creative part. I don’t have a lot of practice with showing, so it’s a struggle for me.

My previous, and only, creative writing class was 38 years ago – my first semester of my freshman year in college. I love to write, but have so much room for improvement!

I’d like to take a creative writing class at a local college, maybe in the fall. I need feedback on what I write, so that I can improve.

In the meantime, I’ll try to use my senses to reshape sentences into scenes. I want to paint pictures with my words, not simply draw a diagram. Asking questions like, “What do I see? What do I feel emotionally at this moment? What sensations are on my skin? What do I hear? What’s happening in the background?” These should help me as I try to paint the picture.

I’m challenged to improve. I’m excited to get better at this form of writing. It’s much more interesting, and that’s the kind of writer I want to be.

An Afternoon in Bed

The experts are saying that whatever you’re feeling in the pandemic, it’s ok. Give yourself some grace – your random wild feelings are normal. Mine put me in bed this afternoon. And I’m ok with that.

I had a productive morning. Swept the bathroom. Scrubbed the shower floor. Watered the outside plants. Wrote a little. Had my coffee and quiet time.

But around 11:30am, my tummy got rumbly. Not sick, just not well. And my mood declined. So I laid down. Then I thought I might be hungry, so I ate. And laid back down. Then I thought some cola syrup sometimes helps, so I got a Diet Coke. And laid back down.

I never did nap, though my eyes were closed some of the time. The bedroom windows are open, so I listened to the sound of our outdoor fountain bubbling. And the birds singing. The sun came and went behind clouds – I could feel the temperature drop with each shaded moment. Then warmth again.

My tummy is mostly better. But now I have a cat curled up on my lap, so I’m still not going anywhere.

I haven’t had an extended bad mood during this coronavirus, though the last three days have been a little rough. Hard to put into words what I’m feeling. I’m not down. Maybe just bored. And tired of the whole quarantine thing.

As I lay here in bed, I ponder. There’s divisiveness again – people wearing masks are being hassled. What happened to “We’re all in this together!”? We started out with a shared experience, but it is devolving. People are getting tired. And fed up. And angry. Which leads to choosing sides instead of unity. Instead of community.

And that won’t defeat the pandemic, and only serves to separate us more. In a time when we need to be kind and grace-filled with each other, extending patience and understanding.

It’s enough conflict to make me take to my bed for the afternoon!

Bedtime

I’m in a pissy mood, and I’m sure I’m not the only one. I’m tired of the day-in/day-out of this pandemic. I’m tired of every day being the same. I’m tired of myself complaining to myself.

It’s a good thing I have phone calls scheduled for tomorrow. To stay connected to friends and family. And a tele-health therapy appointment. Otherwise, I think I’d stay in bed.

Not with my covers over my head. Just for something different to do.

I’d wake up, roll over, go back to sleep. When I’d done that two or three times, I’d come out to get coffee, then go back to bed and read on my Kindle all morning.

I’d emerge to get some lunch – something I can eat in bed – and go back, eat, and take a nap. When I’d wake up, I’d lay still and watch the clouds out the window for a while. Then I’d sit up with my pillows all around me, gather my tiny ball of yarn and crochet hook, and practice my single stitch. (That’s what I’m learning new during this lockdown; right? “This is a great time to try a new hobby.” Can I say “Bah! Humbug!”?????)

I’d probably have to come out for a snack. I’m all out of vanilla Greek yogurt, so I might try making a smoothie with the little cherry yogurt cups. But I’d drink it in bed.

The cats would be very confused by my behavior, and they’d keep checking on me. Until they decided to nap with me.

I guess I might shuffle out for dinner, unless I could convince my husband to bring me dinner in bed. Shoot, maybe he’d join me and we could have a picnic. He’d have to put on his pjs to join me, though.

By evening time, I might be ready to take a break from the bedroom, so I’d come out to watch tv for an hour or so. And then it would be bedtime.

I’d put on new pjs and crawl back under the covers, ready to sleep, and face the next day.

What to wear in a pandemic?

I’ve gotten very lazy in my clothing choices during this stay-at-home order. I’m in my pajamas – nightgown and sleep pants and bathrobe – until 11am, except Wednesdays when I have a 9:30am Zoom call – then I’m fully dressed!

On other days, as noon approaches, I change into clean undergarments and my comfy clothes. I own two pairs of yoga pants – one pair is capris, so it’s a little chilly in CO to wear those yet. I also have a pair of plaid pajama pants. I have leggings, too, but they’re in a different drawer and I forget to choose them.

I pick a complimentary sweatshirt. My plaid pants are burgundy; my yoga pants are black. So just about any top I have matches.

I always do my hair, but don’t wear makeup much anymore. In fact, only at my telehealth appointments with my therapist. I guess I’m still trying to make a good impression!

One problem with my comfy clothes as opposed to my jeans is the “stretch factor.” My yoga pants aren’t nearly as tight as my jeans. This means I don’t feel the constriction when I’m eating – it’s easy to overdo it in the calorie intake, because there’s no pressure in the waistband!

I also wear a poncho, almost every day. It adds extra warmth, even over a sweatshirt. I have a two-tone blue one, or a paisley one that’s brown/burgundy on one side and black/burgundy on the other. So I always have a cape that coordinates, too.

I wear socks and slippers, and still my toes get cold. When this pandemic is all over, I may need to buy a new pair, as these are getting pretty worn.

I do wear my jeans (sometimes my yoga pants, never pajama pants) – when I walk the three blocks to the mailbox. And I wear my jeans when I go to the grocery store. And I put on real shoes.

I suppose all of this is better than staying in my pajamas all day, as tempting as that is. Changing clothes gives me a sense of normalcy to an otherwise crazy time.

Dish/The Red Plate

Today’s Discover Prompt is “Dish.” But instead of thinking about food, I thought of my favorite plate. The Red Plate.

I don’t know long we’ve had The Red Plate. It’s been since the kids were little, because we started using it for their birthday meals. Then we got it out for special recognitions – a good grade on a test or project. Or a 1 at Solo & Ensemble. Or just because.

At some point, we added a gold-rimmed plate to The Red Plate, so that both kids could enjoy recognition at the same meal. At the time, gold was my son’s favorite color, so it became his version of The Red Plate.

I recall one very special time. We went out to dinner for my birthday. We all ordered, and while waiting for our food, talked about the puppy we wanted to get, trying to convince hubby of the need for one. When the meals came out, mine was on The Red Plate! I was so surprised! My husband had snuck it to the hostess, who passed it on to the chef. What a delight!

Now The Red Plate sits in the buffet, under the chips-and-salsa dish. It doesn’t get used as much, with the kids grown and out of the house. But maybe I’ll get it out for my husband’s birthday this month. Why not? He deserves The Red Plate, too!